Why is loving someone so difficult ? Get the answers here

We all have heard about the "butterflies in the stomach" feeling and have experienced it at least once in our lives till now, so we are so familiar with this feeling.

We often relate this feeling with love, love of different kinds. Be it your first ever mobile phone, your first roller coaster ride, your first motorbike, this feeling is natural.

But all these things are non-living, which means that they cannot react and respond to our actions. Here I am going to talk about loving a living being that could eat, sleep, breathe, respire and perform all biological activities. I am talking about loving a Homo sapien that could respond and react to your actions in different ways.

We consider love as a divine feeling. When we are in love everything seems to change. From the shade of sky to the moonlight everything looks beautiful and adorable. When we look at the person we love we feel some sort of satisfaction and contentment. And for this reason, we want that person to be with us all the time.

But the real deal starts when that person actually starts to live with you. What happens then? You all will answer in one tone that, the feelings that we used to have for that person starts to fade and it becomes so difficult to love that person any longer. We just cannot handle them. We feel like going away from them.

Talking about all the hardships that are now happening, why all this has become so tough? Something that is so pleasant and smooth earlier has now become a trouble for you. What's the reason behind this. I'm sure very few of you thaught this way and could reach the answer.

When all this happens we curse love in every possible way we can and if things do not fall into the right place we judge love as it is not our cup of tea. There are many things that are questionable about love but that's not the point here. The point is why do these feelings come to us after loving so deeply.

The answer is "an extra effort". An extra effort is all needed. During our lives, we all have become so lazy and complacent that we want things to happen on its own. We do not want to take pain in moving our butts. The reason for the break that happens in our relationship is because we do not want to work every day on it. We think it will happen ultimately. But this does not happen.

No one wants to walk the extra mile for the person they love. We think they doing many things for them but in reality, it takes more than it seems.

Nothing is complimentary with love. What you make in love is all yours and genuine. You cannot get it thinking that it will happen on its own. You need to work through the tough days.

If we understand this simple thing that nothing happens on its own, it will make a huge difference in today than yesterday.

Love is not difficult, it is just that we are too lazy.